It’s that time of year when everyone is setting goals and intentions for a “better” year ahead. I certainly love this time and use it to reflect on both challenges and achievements from the year that was and what I really want to achieve in the year/s ahead.
This year that process has involved more soul searching and foraging than usual. Perhaps it’s the fact that I’ve been writing the content and preparing for our Get Shit Done: Goal Setting Workshop (see more here) and therefore am really digging into the nitty gritty of the process. Or the fact that the desire to live a slower and more mindful life has become overwhelming. Or maybe I’m just fucking tired of making the same promises to myself year-on-year and ignoring every single one of them by January 6th. Most likely, it’s a combination of all of the above.
Those of you who know me, know I work hard, play hard, love hard and dream big. I am extroverted, ambitious, driven and I don’t take no for an answer. All of that said, I have discovered of late that I need much more space in my life – to be, to breathe, to create, to mama, to reflect. More and more I seek solitude in my day and my life. I think it’s a combination of over-stimulation, decision fatigue, the relentless demands of our little people, the proliferation of social media and technology in our lives and the CONSTANT noise.
So, whilst I certainly have a couple of killer work goals for 2018, my overall life goals look a little different to what you might imagine. I will be sharing these in detail at the workshop so I don’t want to spoil too much.
BUT the one I wanted to talk about was my need to decrease the amount of time I spend on devices + on social media. I certainly know how slippery the slope is when it comes to working in, on and around digital and social media. And when you are the brand and your entire business revolves around an online “presence” those demands can be hefty and the cost seriously high. Couple that with the ever-increasing pressure from platform changes (thanks Instagram) to be “on” and “engaging”, the demand for more and more better content, online judgement and comparison and the need to constantly evolve and do something new and different and frankly, you don’t have time left to scratch yourself. And I haven’t even mentioned actual life. You know the whole mama, wife, daughter, friend, entrepreneur, cook, tidier, laundry washer, taxi, activist, dreamer parts of life. It’s no bloody wonder we put ourselves last. I’m surprised frankly, we put ourselves any where at all.
SO, you guys know I’m not about whining and ALL about action and solutions. In a year, where my unwavering commitment is walking the talk and helping as many women as possible create and live their best life and find a true and purposeful blend of work, life and motherhood (whilst I work through my own and share my learnings), I am making some huge changes in the hope of setting an example.
I don’t have all the answers but I do know this; we only get one chance and how we spend our days is how we spend our lives. Whilst I truly love and value our online community, I will never, ever wish I spent more time on Instagram or looking at my phone instead of playing with my son, talking to the people that I care about or looking after my health and wellbeing. Fucking ever.
So I’ve made a decision to have offline time every night and disconnect entirely from devices and social media from 6pm until I start my morning routine. I have no doubt that this decision will have a detrimental impact on my business. Around 8pm is my peak engagement time on Instagram. And I’m certainly not going to pre-schedule my posts and leave you guys hanging. When I’m online and engaging with you, I want to do it mindfully and actually connect with you all, not scroll through mindlessly and post content for the sake of posting content (ps - worst strategy ever). But you know what, that’s life. You’ve got to prioritize, put on your big girl panties and make your choices. And something tells me, I doubt I’ll be sorry. And maybe I can inspire some of you to consider what you value most and make some shifts accordingly. I can’t wait to hear your thoughts and see you in the mornings so we can inspire each other for a beautiful day ahead x