words by Angela Simpson, The Gratitude Project
My relationship with money has been a full on ROLLERCOASTER.
I've been obsessed with money, In my early 20's I was abundant and an expert at manifesting. I've been close to broke, standing at the cash register at Woolworths transferring $2 from one account and $7 from the next so that I could pay for the groceries I need for my kids. I've told myself money doesn't matter and I've told myself money is the key to happiness. Both wrong.
But over the last 2 years, I've been working closely with my money mindset and fine-tuning MY values on money and my income.
In 2016 we decided to retire my husband from his multiple 6 figure income producing job as a General Manager. Why? Because we were f-ing crazy. Crazy about each other mostly, but also a little nuts. I watched him work his butt off over our first 12 years together and the more successful and highly paid, the sicker, less connected and unhappier we both got. He was working his butt off to make someone else rich and hopefully be promoted to the role above him, to be paid more and to work MORE. Talking about it we came to the realisation that we would have more money but less of the things we value - time with family, freedom and happiness.
So we said goodbye to him being on the phone more than he spoke to me, goodbye to the travel that took him away from his girls that he loved more than anything and goodbye to the healthy salary and decided to start our heart-based business from home so he could raise the girls with me and have back what he loves most. Time flexibility and freedom.
During the start of this transition, my head went into the 'save yourself' mode and I was constantly telling myself we didn't need much money.
"We're fine with enough money for just getting by, I don't LOVE travel anyway"
"Organic food is great but having Hugh home is more important, we'll just eat sprayed foods"
"I don't need a home with a pool, we can just go visit our friends who have pools"
And it calmed the fear in me that knew this wasn't the case.
Because I know that money doesn't make you happy. But here's the part you never want to forget - Money allows you to live abundantly in your values.
So my values were around health - organic food, trips to the naturopath to holistically heal any ailments, yoga memberships, healthy whole food based supplements. My values were around family - keeping Hugh home, spending time with my Nan and my dad whenever I want, spoiling those I love on special occasions. My values were around travel - seeing the world, weekend trips away, showing the girls different cultures.
And what do I need to make those things happen? Yup, money.
Because while organic food does grow on trees, I still had to pay for it (or buy a farm). And once I could see that it's OK to be abundant and even... FILTHY RICH... I started to see even more good that came from me having money. I can help my friends when they need it, I can contribute on a larger scale to the work my mum does with childrens hospitals in Vanuatu, I can give my children experiences that will help them to grow as a person and also have the resources to help myself grow to parent them better.
So my mindset and values around money - money is AMAZING! I love what money can allow for me and my family - choices. And once I shifted my mindset to see that money is not the root of all evil, I saw that it actually turns you more into the person that you are. And it's now my passion to see more money in the hands of people doing good things. And that's what I dedicate my days to now, and for the long, abundant future!
BIO - Angela Simson is a female health + happiness coach, writer and speaker. She is the creator of The Gratitude Project blog which inspires thousands of women to step into their light and live their best life. Angela is also the mind behind 30 DAYS OF SELF CARE and THE GRATITUDE TRANSFORMATION and has added cacao filled joy into many kitchens with her recipe book TREAT YOUR TASTEBUDS. Through her time as an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Angela has coached dozens of women personally through her private coaching practice and hundreds more with her online program.